How can therapy help?

Most people do not have an accurate picture of what healthy communication looks like through media or their own family systems.

All relationships have conflict, but not all conflict needs to be scary or overwhelming.

The following are some hallmark traits of people experiencing insecure attachment:

• Flooded with fear at the prospect of your partner leaving

• Afraid to say what you actually want and need out of fear of rejection

• A feeling of panic when faced with conflict that shapes your behavior in the relationship

• Feeling too overwhelmed to engage with your partner despite them needing something from you

• Wanting to pull away from your partner because their needs feel too daunting for your to meet or even talk about

• Difficulty with boundaries, especially when you care about the person

By learning the tools of secure attachment, you can feel more secure in yourself, and as a result, more secure in your relationships.

Together, we will develop boundaries that work for you, and the resilience to tolerate distress and pause when agitated. You can develop your intuition and stop second guessing your thoughts and actions, leading you to more fulfilling relationships that feel aligned with your purpose and encourage self-esteem, not self-doubt.*

Relationships take work, but they don’t need to feel this hard.

You want to be trust people but have been hurt in the past and just aren't sure how you can move forward, especially when you have good reason to be guarded. Maybe you grew up in a household that felt chaotic, and healthy relationships weren't exactly modeled for you.

Or maybe they were, and you just aren't sure why you have difficulty connecting with people. You crave emotional intimacy but often feel like the other person is aloof or not able to meet you where you are. You worry that others don't value you like you want them to.

Or: Maybe you are someone who values being independent and the thought of being too close to someone makes you uncomfortable. You want a relationship but when it comes time to be more intimate, things tend to get complicated and you often want space.

You might find yourself thinking:

"I always want to be closer than they do."

"Why do I have such a hard time with intimacy?"

"Why do others have such a hard time with intimacy?" 

"What if I never find a relationship that I can be myself in?"

"Why do my relationships fizzle after a period of intensity that feels great?"

"Are my ideas about relationships even accurate?"