Hey there, I’m Sam.

I work with high achievers who feel “together” on the outside but overwhelmed, disconnected, or anxious on the inside. Many of my clients are used to performing, caretaking, or being the strong one, yet privately struggle with shame, emotional numbness, or the fear that everything will fall apart if they slow down. My work helps you understand the why behind these patterns so you can thrive without the mask and live from your real, grounded self.

I help adults who struggle with masking, disconnection, codependency, and attachment wounds finally understand why they feel this way—and how to live a life that doesn’t require hiding.

If you’ve spent years holding it all together, keeping parts of yourself hidden, or performing a version of yourself that doesn’t match what you feel inside—you’re not alone.

Therapy with me isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you find the space to become the inner caretaker you have always yearned for. And to find freedom and fulfillment by connecting with who you actually are.

You can have a life where your inner world and outer world finally match. Where authenticity doesn’t feel dangerous.

If you’re ready to stop living a double life and start living a whole one, I’m here.

Therapy for Adults Who Feel Stuck, Disconnected, or Living a Double Life

When you’ve survived by being the strong one, the calm one, the achiever, the caretaker, or the emotional container for everyone else, taking off the mask can feel impossible.
You might notice patterns like:

• People-pleasing even when it hurts

• Shutting down or dissociating during conflict

• Lashing out when the pressure builds

• Feeling responsible for others’ emotions

• Substance use or process addictions

• Anxiety, depression, or chronic self-doubt

• Feeling “too much” or “not enough”

• Using performance or perfection to feel safe

• Carrying shame, secrets, or a private struggle no one knows about

These aren’t character flaws. They’re responses to unresolved childhood wounds, family roles, trauma, and relational patterns that shaped your nervous system long before you had words for them.

I Help You Understand the WHY—Not Just Manage the Symptoms

Skills matter, but skills alone don’t heal the inner injuries that created these patterns in the first place.

My approach blends trauma-informed therapy, attachment work, and mind-body awareness to help you:

• Understand the root of your behaviors

• Unmask the parts of you you’ve had to hide

• Heal the inner critic and internalized shame

• Build secure attachment with yourself and others

• Break free from codependency and emotional caretaking

• Connect to your emotions without fear

• Create relationships that feel safe, reciprocal, and real

• Thrive without overcontrolling, performing, or holding everything together

You don’t have to choose between survival mode and collapse. There is a third option: living as your full self without losing your stability or your relationships.

Therapy for People Who Keep It All Together (Even When It Hurts)

I work with adults who are:

• Eldest children or “parentified” children

• People who’ve always been the responsible one

• High achievers carrying hidden emotional pain

• Individuals living a double life or navigating secrecy

• People disconnected from their emotions or sense of self

• Adults healing attachment wounds and toxic family dynamics

This work is especially for those who feel:

• “No one knows the real me.”

• “If I stop performing, everything will fall apart.”

• “I don’t know how to ask for help.”

• “My relationships don’t feel safe or reciprocal.”

• “I’ve outgrown my coping mechanisms, but I don’t know what’s next.”

Therapy is where you get to take off the mask—gently, safely, at your own pace—and learn that you can still thrive without it.